It’s not the number of contacts you cultivate but the diversity and depth of connections that leverage your opportunity to use best talents more often to accomplish more.

Three-Step Method for Making Stronger Connections: Take the Triangle Talk approach to connecting and reaching agreement with others: You, Me, Us. First refer to their interest, then yours – and then note how your interests coincide. This approach enables diverse people to gain traction sooner toward a common goal.

Becoming more deeply connected with those you admire and love bolsters, in you, the traits you most admire in them. Recognize behaviors that most upset you so, like defensive driving, you see potential “crashes” sooner and avoid them.

Speak to their positive intent, especially when they appear to have none, and you are more likely to bring out their better side.

We are far more revealing by the questions we ask than the answers we give. Answer briefly to sense where their questions are heading.

• The stronger the signal you send yourself of your highest purpose, the more likely you are to notice ways to serve it• Your specificity boosts your clarity, credibility and memorability. • The specific detail proves the general conclusion, not the reverse yet we are most likely to write and speak first in generalizations.• Your focus on interconnectedness increases your frequency of serendipitous encounters, unexpected insights and deeper friendships.

Best way to gain greater credibility, clout and success: involve unexpected allies, ardently united around something specific that you all believe is meaningful.

Whatever most captures your mind controls your life.

Bring out others better side and they are more likely to see and support yours. You can't develop positive people with negative feedback. What you praise in others, you'll encourage to flourish. People like people who like them.

More than money, talent, or your number of contacts, your capacity to create mutuality with others can transform you into a sought-after Opportunity Maker with whom people most want to align. Be the glue that sticks the right teams together to solve problems or seize opportunities sooner and better together.